26 And Figuring It Out

Welcome to *26 and Figuring It Out*. A space for honest reflections on the twists and turns of navigating life in your twenties. Here, I share the raw reality of balancing dreams, relationships, career struggles, and self-discovery, all while living in the vibrant city of Nairobi. If you’re also in a season of waiting, wondering, and growing, join me as we walk this path together, one step at a time. This is a place for those who might not have it all figured out yet – and are learning that maybe that’s okay.

Introduction Being 26 can feel like you’re stuck in between—too old to just be figuring things out but also not quite where you thought you’d be. Living in Nairobi, with its high energy and constant push to “hustle,” can make this feeling even stronger. The truth is, so many of us feel this way, and it's okay to admit it.

If you’re also in a season of waiting, wondering when things will finally fall into place, this post is for you. You’re not alone, and there’s so much value in simply getting through it one day at a time.

Embracing Singlehood After six years of being single, I’ve learned that romantic relationships aren’t the only way to find fulfillment. Sure, it’s tough watching others move on in their relationships, especially when family and friends subtly (or not-so-subtly) nudge you about dating. But this time alone has helped me discover what I truly want—not just from a partner, but from myself.

If you’re single and struggling with it, know that it’s okay to feel that way. It doesn’t mean you’re missing out on life. Instead, this time can be one of the best seasons for understanding who you are, healing from past hurts, and preparing yourself for the right relationship when it comes along. You’re exactly where you need to be right now.

Building Relationships that Matter While romance may not have worked out, my family and friends have been a source of strength and joy. Living in a big city like Nairobi, where everyone seems busy chasing dreams, it can be hard to find genuine connections. But I’m grateful for the few friends and family members who truly get me.

So, even if you’re not in a relationship, focus on nurturing the connections that count. Surround yourself with people who encourage you, celebrate you, and help you grow. They’re the ones who make life meaningful and support you when things get rough.

Facing Unemployment with a Positive Attitude One of the hardest things about being 26 is feeling like I’m running out of time, especially with work. Finding a stable job in Nairobi can feel nearly impossible, and sometimes it feels like life is moving forward for everyone except me. But I’m learning that this time, though frustrating, can be valuable if I let it be.

If you’re also unemployed or between jobs, don’t lose hope. You can use this time to explore skills, try new things, or even start a side hustle. Even small steps count, and some days are just about getting through. Every day you keep pushing forward is progress.

Finding Balance Living in Nairobi, it’s easy to get caught up in the pressure to “make it.” Trying to balance personal goals, career ambitions, and relationships feels like juggling too many things. But I’m learning that balance isn’t about having it all figured out—it’s about making space for each part of life and finding joy in the little things.

Create a routine that includes time for yourself, time to connect with others, and time to work toward your goals. And when you achieve even a small goal, celebrate it! Each step, no matter how small, brings you closer to where you want to be.

Conclusion As I wait to turn 27, I’m learning to embrace the journey instead of just rushing to get to the next stage. Life is a mix of struggles, growth, and small wins, and every part of it shapes us. So if you’re also 26 and feeling a bit lost, remember that there’s value in the waiting, too.

Here’s to navigating this season with patience, one step at a time, and believing that good things are on the way.